Monday, July 30, 2007

Sticking To It

My dad and I were watching the Today Show this morning and they did a feature on this 18-year old kid who bought farmland with the help of his family and neighbors in a small farming town in Massachusetts.

One of his neighbors wanted to retire from farming, but didn't want to sell it to some corporation that would only transform his farmland into houses and whatnot. So he sold it to the kid that helped him out every summer. He was offered millions by those big corporations. He sold it to the kid for only $32,000.

Now the kid is selling produce from his farm and his neighbors help him out by buying from him. He's keeping his town real, upholding their identity and celebrating its bounties.

He didn't go to college anymore. Some people might not dig that, but he's too busy digging into his own plot of land to care. This is what he believes in and he's sticking to it. It might not be glamorous nor convenient, but he's sticking to it.

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An uncle and an aunt recently became bona fide American citizens. My dad and I were talking about it this morning and, like me, he doesn't want to be an American citizen - especially because it means that by doing so, you have to denounce your original citizenship. (Of course, you can always apply for dual citizenship, but that comes later on, I believe.) That is something neither my dad nor I would like to do.

I had a conversation with a friend of my in laws and he was telling me about the beauty of America, the land of opportunity, and how, since I'll be living here for a while, I should be taking advantage of that to the fullest extent. (Now there's something I haven't heard before. Ooh.) I was trying to explain that my intention was to study, maybe work a while, but Chaddy and I wouldn't want to settle here for good. We don't want to raise our children here entirely. Canada, maybe, but not here.

He said I should stay long enough to be a citizen. (Again, how novel! Where do people come up with such capital ideas???) And I said, no, thank you, I don't want to be a citizen. And then he gave me this look. Mind you, we had just met, and he gave me a look like, "You must be one of those crazy, flaming, liberals..." Well, yes, I probably am, but no matter. He gave me a look. And we had just met.

And then he said, "Well, Bush won't be president forever. Your views might change."

And I said, "No, not really."

And he said, "But maybe when you have kids, it'll be different."

And I said, "We specifically do not want to raise our kids there."

And he said, "Maybe your parents will petition you."

And I said, "They would, but then I've already told them I didn't want to be a citizen, so they've let go of that."

And he said, "Think of all the conveniences! For one, you can get to travel anywhere and not need a visa!"

And I said, "Why do something just for the convenience? If something is too convenient, why would it be worth doing?"

And he did: Blink-blink. Naubusan ata.

"It's a principle thing," I said.

And he let go of it either because (a) he had to go, (b) he knew he was going to be in for quite an earful if he asked further, or (c) I would have to get physical with him, even in the teensiest way, be it hurling a few spittle his way from my angry, frothing, liberal mouth.

See, this is what I don't understand. I get why others would like to be citizens. Totally get it. But I don't want to be a citizen. I don't force other people to subscribe to my liberal beliefs (hee-haw said the Democratic donkey...) We can engage in healthy debate, yes, but at the end of the day, I don't want to force people to have the same beliefs and dreams. I don't see why someone else has to force his dream on me.

My dream is to teach kids how to read and write well. My dream is to have kids who are articulate, compassionate, open minded, God-fearing, and (eek) liberal. My dream is to grow old with Chaddy, laughing and crying all the way. While location may not be that important - here, there, Canada, Tegucigalpa, Seychelles - I do not want to get rid of my citizenship. When I die, I will die a Filipino.

I am a Filipino by birth and deed and heart. I might not have chosen to be a Filipino, but I choose to remain a Filipino.

I am not a Filipino because of convenience; if it is too convenient, then why would it be worth doing?

Thursday, July 26, 2007

What Happened During the Wedding

...ok, so here's what happened...

The morning started very calmly. Eerily enough, I was asleep by 9 pm the night before, so I was able to get a full night's rest, thank goodness. My make up artist from Pranav Salon (in Robinson's Galleria) came and did wonders for me and my mom. (Aside: Really, if you're looking for a place to do your make up with full on service, go to Pranav and look for Louie, the girl who did my make up. A. MA. ZING. Special thanks to my best friend Sara who sponsored the whole thing!)

We got married in a chapel in Marikina with just our families, our maid of honor, and our best man. Since no one else was there, they were surrounding us during the entire marriage rite which lasted about 12 minutes. It was one of the most intimate and special moments in our lives - to have the people we love the most really - and I mean really - share this most important event in our lives with us.

After that, we went to the Ateneo High School for our Thanksgiving Mass. We had about 70 guests - all of them our most intimate friends. I walked down the aisle with my parents by my side to the tune of I Must've Done Something Good from The Sound of Music, arranged by my best friend, GP Eleria.

The Mass itself was wonderful, full of happy tears - as the guests will tell you. We were just so overwhelmed with everything happening that we couldn't stop crying! The Ateneo Chamber Singers sang for us, and so did my friend Leslie Perez, my dad, and my brother. :-)

We then moved to the Seniors' Quadrangle, also at the High School, just a step, hop, skip away from the Chapel, for the reception. The food was EXCELLENT. Our caterer, Kaye Cunanan, served the most wonderful food. People were still talking about it weeks after the wedding. Really, if you have a wedding, a debut, a bar/bat mitzvah, heck, whatever coming up, you would really want to consider having it catered by her.

After the rather funny cake cutting ceremony, (we were cutting the fake-cake part...we didn't know that there were parts that wasn't cake. I mean, we hadn't done that sort of thing before...) we had our first dance. We danced to Break On Through by The Doors, to everyone's delight. (Yes, it was choreographed. Yes, I choreographed it. Yes, Chaddy really does love me that much to have done such a thing...)

And then the rest of the night, everyone basically just had fun. We were able to meet our guests and talk to them without having a photographer follow us around and tell us to act properly. Nono Felipe and Carlo Santos, two very dear friends of mine, took wonderful pictures. They were so paparazzi-like in their unobtrusive ways, all of the pictures looked alive and candid and real.

And so that's how the happiest day of my life went.

Thank you to everyone who made it possible. We will never forget that. :-)

Wednesday, July 25, 2007

Confessions of a Jetlag Addict (Part 2)

And so I'm back.

Everything's pretty much the same except that now it's a lot hotter than I remember. Oh, and the flowers are all out so my nasal passages are killing me. Otherwise, it's pretty much the same.

Turns out, I still have a way to go till my stuff for school starts, so I have all this time to play wifey. Chaddy's not here yet - hopefully he'll be here first week of August - so I have time to make this place look a little homey :-).

There were tons of stuff that I wanted to do while in the Philippines but wasn't able to do. Man. What with arranging the wedding, getting married, fixing my Visa, and then fixing Chad's Visa - we hardly had any time to do anything else!

So here's a list of the stuff I was meaning to do but didn't get to do (it's the thought that counts!):

1. Eat more isaw.
2. See more of my students and have actual conversations with them.
3. Go to Baguio.
4. Hang out with friends (you know who you are...yung iba kasi kebs na talaga e...)
5. Hang out with my brother more.
6. Go to Embassy (canyoubelieveit? I have never been there. I just want to go there and see which artistas will get into a catfight.)
7. Hug more of Sushi.

Ah, well. At least that means I really need to go back to the Philippines soon.